The One Hairstyle I Never Recommend — A Look Chosen Only to Fit In with Others
Lately, during consultations with my clients, there’s something I find myself noticing more and more.
Far more people than you might expect are choosing hairstyles not for themselves, but **“for the eyes of others.”**
Of course, everyone cares about how they are seen by others.
At work, at school, within the family, with a partner—each situation has its own idea of what looks “appropriate.”
Adapting to that is not a bad thing in itself.
And yet—
even so, there is one hairstyle I never recommend.
It is this:
A hairstyle chosen for one reason alone—“because everyone else is doing it.”
That’s it.
■ Why some consultations take 5 minutes, while others take an hour
I place great importance on the time before I ever pick up the scissors.
For some people, the consultation ends in five minutes. For others, it can take thirty minutes, even an hour.
It’s not about whether the time is long or short.
What matters is **how clearly that person’s own voice has become words.**
“I want to look like this.”
“I want to give this kind of impression.”
“I don’t like this part.”
“This is important to me.”
Even when someone can’t fully put it into words,
their true feelings always appear—in facial expressions, tone of voice, pauses, and small gestures.
My job is to read those signals and translate them into hair design.
■ The only hairstyle I don’t recommend is one that leaves you behind
Any hairstyle can work.
Short, long, bobs, color, perms—
I basically affirm all genres and styles.
However, there is one hairstyle I would never recommend to any client.
It is this:
A style chosen by ignoring your own feelings and deciding only after watching others.
That’s what it is.
- Because everyone on social media is doing it
- Because you don’t want to stand out at work
- Because you want to look “normal”
- Because being different feels scary
- Because playing it safe won’t get you criticized
If these reasons sit at the center of the decision,
I will always stop you.
Because that choice slowly chips away at your own self-worth.
■ Even with the same short haircut, the reason changes everything
Take short hair, for example.
Client A says:
“I want to feel refreshed every day, so I want to go short.”
Client B says:
“Everyone around me has short hair, and long hair stands out…”
Even though the hairstyle is the same,
I fully support the first person,
while with the second, I take time to explore other options together.
Is the reason coming from yourself,
or is it coming from others?
That alone completely changes the atmosphere the finished hairstyle gives off.
■ Styling yourself for someone else is noble—but dangerous when that “someone” is vague
For your family
For your partner
For your job
When the “someone” is clear and specific, the purpose behind the hairstyle becomes very strong.
But when it’s for—
- School
- The company
- Society
- People around you
- Just somehow
When the other person is not clearly defined,
is that choice truly making you happy?
That’s something I often stop to think about.
■ The kind of hair design I truly want to offer
I believe a hairstyle is not just about appearance.
It’s a tool that supports your sense of self-worth.
That’s why I want to help you put your “this is what I want” into words.
I want to create a hair design together that allows you to treat yourself with care.
If that takes time, I’m happy to talk for as long as it takes.
■ In closing—choose a hairstyle for your own happiness
The one hairstyle I never recommend
is the one that leaves you behind.
On the other hand, when you begin to see—
- What you truly want
- Who you want to be
- What you value most
That hairstyle will undoubtedly add something positive to your life.
I value that entire process—
as a hairdresser, as a designer,
and as one human being to another.
A hairstyle is not clothing worn to fit someone else.
It is a design that affirms who you are.
If that core never wavers,
any style will suit you—and it will always help move you forward.
